If You Knit it He Will Come

Carly’s friend is in her 30s and single.
She has decided that she is going to knit a sweater for a man that she doesn’t have in her life yet.  Thinking, if she knits it he will come.
This might seem like a crazy idea to you, but I believe in this.   This is exactly what I think she should do.  I am all in.
It’s much like a prayer shawl.  The idea is that you knit or crochet something for someone who needs healing.  You spend your time thinking great calming, healing thoughts and then the person who gets the shawl wears it and feels your love.  The good vibes go out into the vast universe and then come billowing down on the person you knit for.  It brings them peace.
So, why wouldn’t this work the same way?  What you put out there, you bring back to you.  It’s the law of attraction right?
If its good enough for Oprah…
I did something kind of like this many years ago.   I wrote a list of what I wanted in my ideal guy.
Most of my friends were already married and having babies.  I was in my late 20s and was ready to be married too.  I was talking to my friend Earl and he asked me what I wanted in a man.  I told him some very vague attributes like…funny, happy, smart…those sorts of things.  Earl said I needed to be more specific.  Like really specific.  He said if you are specific then you won’t waste your time on men that don’t fit your list.    If you write this list, when your perfect man shows up, you’ll recognize him.

This is how my life partner list read.

-likes to laugh
-adores me (opens doors, gives me flowers, surprised me, romances me)
-approaches all things with a positive attitude
-respects marriage
-treats people with respect…especially his family
-5’10 or taller, shouldn’t be thinner than me
-comfortable at a formal ball or corner bar
-likes to travel and explore
-can run a power tool when needed
-wants to be a father
-enjoys a beer or two
-believes in a higher power (Catholic would be cool)
-successful enough in business to have lots of time to play
-money to play with would be nice too
-physically active (no couch potato)

From then on, each time someone asked me why I was still single, I would pass them this list.  I would say “I haven’t found this guy yet, do you know him?”
I met Jason about a year later. It was New Year’s Eve at O’Garas pub (corner bar – check).  He asked me to dance (surprised me – check).  I had to look up to see into his eyes  (5’10 or taller – check).   It went on like this…checking off things on my list until he asked me to marry him a year later.


10 years, 2 kids, 1 dog, 1 cat and 1 yarn store later the list didn’t fail me.
So, I absolutely believe, if you knit it he will come.
I am all in!
A little side note here…if you are interested in writing your own life partner list check out Earl’s book Finding Love on Purpose Write your own list and shoot me a copy.
You never know:)

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17 Responses to “If You Knit it He Will Come”

  1. Sheridan says:

    So cool!

  2. Pamm says:

    Oh Aimee! What a wonderful story! Thank you for sharing it with us and sharing your list. I may give your list to my two 20-something sons as a guideline!

  3. Jean says:

    Your list of what you were looking for in a guy is so much what I’m looking for also!! Does he have a brother??!!

  4. Martha says:

    I’m going to do that too…i think The Weasley Sweater (from Harry Potter). http://alison.knitsmiths.us/pattern_weasley.html

  5. Arlette Cheramie says:

    This is a delightful heartwarming story that furthers my belief that if you believe it will happen. Thank you for sharing. May you enjoy many more years together and many more blessings.

  6. Patti says:

    Aw – what a lovely story! Thanks for sharing!

  7. Carol says:

    What a great story Aimee. It even gives me a little hope for me!!

  8. Kathy Breen says:

    What a lovely story. You are just a good person, and it shows in your actions, your writing, and the good choices you make.

  9. Kristie says:

    Hmm. As someone who just weeks away from being a “40-something” (well, just 40), what an interesting idea. I have ordered the book, started my list, and started perusing mens’ patterns on Ravelry. Can’t hurt, right?

  10. Cori E (Irocknits) says:

    Aimee, that is a wonderfully written story of hope and love. I think you should send it to one of the knitting magazines for their (back of the book) publication. Many knitters would love to read a story like this one. I’m very impressed and will share it with others.

  11. mamabearKehoe says:

    I think this sounds like an act of faith. Both my Mom and myself put things away for future babies as we found them or made them starting around the time we were teenagers. There was no way to know if we would have children only the strong hope and faith that we might some day. For my Mom my sister and I came after nine plus years of marriage. My Mom had blankets and booties and many other things she made lovingly for us not knowing if she would ever have kids. I have three kids and counting and while I didn’t have to wait as long there were many cute blankets and other items that I put away for them hoping someday that a little one would need it. For me faith has brought first a husband than kids and I can totally relate to your story.

  12. Lisa says:

    I’ve had a similar idea to this. I’m single but I’ve always thought that when I find the man that I want to marry I will start knitting a wedding shawl. That way maybe he will ask me to marry him and also it will give me plenty of time to knit a beautiful shawl 🙂

  13. Jeani says:

    Aimme, I liked. And I shared it with my Quilting Lady’s and thay all liked too. Thanks for sharing with us. I’m going to pass is on to my son too. Amber, wants to read Earls book too.

  14. Cindy says:

    Huh. I’m pretty sure that if I start knitting a sweater for a man who has yet to materialize, I will end up with . . . a really big, empty sweater that will end up functioning as a car blanket for my three large dogs. 😀 I think I’ll play it safe and continue knitting prayer shawls for charity instead.

  15. Joyce says:

    What a tender story, Aimee, what about a “Knit a Sweater for your Guy” class? Either to make him come or make him stay! Happy Mothers Day everyone!

  16. Kris says:

    Love this!

  17. Laura Youngmark says:

    I took your advice. 2 years later, I’m married to an awesome guy who reminds me “don’t forget to take your knitting” before we leave for the day. Thanks Aimee!

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